My biggest fear as a single girl…..flags!! This may sound
crazy so let me explain. I have a flag system, you know, the signs that a guy
might put up that the relationship isn’t going to work. My system goes like this; White flag-Just
proceed with caution, Yellow flag-ok hunny this guy might have issues you can’t
handle, and RED FLAG-lace up your best Nike’s and run girl!!!!! Well I have
noticed that I am like an SEC ref when it comes to throwing the RED flag on a
guy, I toss those things out left and right, and I’m outta there! While I think
my system is great at weeding out the less then appealing candidates and it
definitely helps protect my slightly over guarded heart, am I abusing my own
system? Do I even give these guys a fighting chance? Am I going to be alone
forever because of flags? (Oh and yes happily single girls can fear being alone
forever). I gave a guy a Red flag once
because he liked me too much too soon! In my defense I think he was definitely
a stage 5 clinger and while some girls like that, I DO NOT! Then there’s ignoring the flags. Lord knows I
am guilty of ignoring my own system from time to time. I once wanted so badly to believe that this
guy who made me smile and laugh constantly, and looking into his eyes made my
heart melt, was right for me no matter how many flags I saw. It was like I
somehow didn’t notice anymore that while
he was all these things to me, I just wasn’t those things to him. I found myself so wrapped up in those eyes
that I forget to notice he never took me out or even gave me the respect I
deserved. Well needless to say by the time I implemented my flag system with him
the damage was done, my heart was broken (a very hard thing for me to admit). I
however do not completely regret this situation as it gave me many butterfly
moments that I adored and well heartbreaks happen. I am just glad I came to my senses before I allowed
more time and damage to be done. Then
there are the much worse cases where girls fail to see the controlling, abusive
relationships they are getting into and that’s no good. For instance, I know
this is pretty well known, but NEVER ignore the way a man treats his mother!
EVER! If he treats her rude you stand no chance of being treated well. Also
take note if you want to go off with your girls without him…does he get ill?
These are not things to be ignored ladies, these are DOUBLE RED flags! No
butterfly moments to appreciate after these guys, believe me. So while some would say throw the flags away
Nicole or you will never find happiness with a man, I say I will keep my flags
fears and all, because while I may fear never finding someone who passes my
flag system, I am very happy knowing it keeps me from doing another one of my
biggest fears….Settling!
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